Affirmation Counselling

ARTICLE NUMBER - 14 - Affirmation - Counselling

Affirmations are positive messages which, if repeated over and over, will have a lasting positive affect on your mind set.

They can be used for all types of change that you may want to achieve, be it for:

• self-esteem,

• to love yourself

• for your health

• success

• skills you would like to achieve

• and many others

Affirmations work in the same way as a belief system does, the only real difference is that you choose with awareness what it is that you want. You then repeat that message over and over.

Remember please, an affirmation definitely works, because the mind and nervous system can't differentiate between a real or an imagined experience.

Affirmations, like belief-systems are used most of the time unintentional, and unfortunately to your detriment, by repeating worries or negative thought patterns over and over.

Why?
How often do you repeat a thought over a period of one day or even a week? Are you actually aware that, (more than likely), constantly repeated thoughts are worries and have a negative message?

Do you worry?
How often do you repeat thought messages such as: "I can't do it; I never will get enough money; that makes me sick; I don't believe it;" the list goes on and on.

Do you use affirmations? Positive or negative ones?
As with your belief system, you have to become aware of your negative thought patterns (affirmations) before you can change them. Your next exercise will be to become aware of your negative, (especially repetitive) thought patterns and turn them around into a positive affirmations!

Affirmation have to be stated as a positive statement, I mean a statement made without using any negation, this is absolutely vital.

EXAMPLE: Negative thought - I am too frightened to ask for a pay rise.
WRONG affirmation - I am not frightened!
CORRECT positive affirmation - I AM BRAVE!

Create NOW five positive affirmations out of five of your negative thought patterns. Write them down in order of importance, then place the most important affirmation on the top of the list.

1) I love and accept myself NOW!

The best way to use affirmations is to say them out loud in front of a mirror. Use feelings, say them with meaning and use plenty of repetition. Use phrases such as "day by day, I am getting better and better,' and always use the present tense, such as "I am creative now," and avoid using "I will be creative," as this could mean in twenty years time.

Set some time aside, especially in the morning, and say each of your affirmations twenty times, and the "I love and accept myself' affirmation, a hundred times. If you drive to work, say them out loud in your car, and whenever you have a spare moment, concentrate on your affirmations. The more often you say them, the better they will work.

I can guarantee that affirmations work. Again, it's up to you! By now you should have a swinging good time, with the pendulum swinging to the creator side and you becoming your own creator of your own reality.

NOW COME BACK TO YOUR VISUALISATION TASK!
(Question from article number 4 - Victim Principle )

Did you hang up many pictures, and have you included a picture of yourself, if you haven't, why not?
Because you don't love yourself?
By the way, how do you treat somebody you don't like or love? Whatever your answer, that will be the way you treat yourself. If you don't like or love yourself, you treat yourself accordingly.

And ... If you don't love yourself, how can you expect anybody else to love you?
Please change, you know now how to.

Remember, there is only one of you, accept and love that one-YOU!

DO YOU BELIEVE IN YOU? - YOU DO, IF YOU LOVE ... YOU!

Let's finalise this chapter.

This may be a good time to reflect on where we started from. I asked you to write down an appreciation list. I hope you have done that little task, now I want you to write a new one.

But before you do that, sit back, relax and picture three people in your life, who you know love you. They could be your parents, partner or lover, anybody, as long as you know, that they love you. Or (instead of love), highly appreciate you, as in the case of a business partner, a boss, a team member etc.

Now, starting with the first person ..... float out of your body, and into this person's body, and see for yourself how that person is seeing and experiencing you.

What makes you appealing to that person, how does that person describe you - your looks, your humour, your intelligence, your passions, your strength and weaknesses, your behaviour?

Recognise qualities which were previously unknown or maybe viewed as faults by you.

1. Stop putting yourself down. Prop yourself up!
2. Display a picture of yourself in your house, flat etc!
3. Pat yourself on the shoulder!
4. Speak up for yourself. Express your thoughts, feelings. Ask for what you want.
5. Tell other people that you like and appreciate them. Acknowledge other people and what they do!
6. Remember; if you do what you always do, you get what you always get.
   Do what you like to get, more frequently!
7. What is the fact? Stop blaming, labeling, judging, criticising and state the fact instead.
   That's how you respect people and therefore people will respect you.
   Also, not judging etc., yourself means you will not think that people judge you!
8. Do write your appreciation list!
9. Do your AFFIRMATIONS!